Saturday, 21 May 2016


Why I masturbate my profoundly disabled son.


In the last 30 years there has been significant and substantive progress and advancement in all aspects of the lives of persons with disabilities. The progress and advancement include palliative care, physiotherapy, education, human rights, sexual recognition and sexual rights. However, there are amongst persons with disabilities, a group whose disabilities are so profound that their voices have not been heard and have not benefitted from this advancement. The majority in this group of profoundly disabled persons live their lives isolated and lonely in the dark corridors of institutions or asylums or the far corners of homes and continue to be ignored, marginalized and discriminated against. I hope that my story of the love and care that I have provided to my profoundly disabled son, specifically, the recognition of his sexuality and sexual expression will shed some light into the silent, voiceless world of persons who are profoundly disabled and will add to break the chains of ignorance and discrimination.

My story begins nearly 30 years ago when my wife (now ex-wife) gave birth to a wonderful baby boy named Mustafa. It was a moment filled with tears of pride and joy as most parents feel at the birth of a son or daughter. However, our bubble of joy and feelings were shattered when we later learnt that Mustafa was inflicted with a serious neurological disturbance known as profound cerebral palsy. Even though we had this heart-breaking news, I remember at the time promising to Mustafa that I would protect, care and provide a life of happiness equal to his sibling sister who was a year older.
Although the information in this paragraph may seem mundane and familiar, it is important for you to understand the neurological and physical disorder caused by profound cerebral palsy that led to my recognition of the sexuality of my son and will also provide a peek into the world of a profoundly disabled person. Over time the development of my son has been painfully slow. As a result of the severity of the cerebral palsy, Mustafa has limited motor control and cannot voluntarily move his muscles and as a result cannot walk or sit and is practically bedridden. In addition to his physical disability, Mustafa also faces profound intellectual disability as he cannot understand and cannot verbally communicate through any language and his ability to learn seems very limited. These disabilities put Mustafa with an IQ well below 20 (it may even be unmeasurable) and is therefore classified in a medical group of persons commonly referred to as persons with profound intellectual and multiple disability (PIMD). However, while the group classification as a person with PIMD generally reflect the negative disabilities of Mustafa, they do not reflect his positive abilities. Given the profound disability of Mustafa, he is surprisingly healthy and has not suffered any major illness throughout his life. Mustafa sufficiently manages to eat his food and he sleeps well. What is remarkable is that although Mustafa cannot talk or express a language, he makes a variety of sounds to communicate his emotional feelings of joy, happiness, satisfaction, pleasure, pain, anxiety, boredom, hunger, etc. For example, he would make gurgling sounds of laughter and smile to indicate his happiness. He would make soft sounds or at times loud rhythmic sounds to indicate his contentment. He would scream if he is in pain and softly whimper to indicate his boredom or his uncomfortableness or sigh and yawn if he is weary or tired. His other forms of expression include his facial expression, the look in his eyes and body language. He would pull stiff to something that is hurting him or making him uncomfortable or by succumbing his body to something that he enjoys. Although Mustafa’s sight is difficult to gauge, he does recognize familiar people around him, for example, he often smiles or laugh when I call out his name or whistle a particular tune and response vocally to the care and affection I provide to him. Mustafa’s hearing, smell and sense of taste all seem normal and he loves the outdoors as his eyes would light up if he is taken to a new environment and would shout with excitement. As a result of the variety of communication other than a verbal language, Mustafa sufficiently manages to express his physical and emotional feelings. Besides the communication that I have described there are hundreds of nuances of communication between Mustafa and myself that forges a special bond between us, a bond that all fathers and mothers who have a close relationship with their children are familiar with.


It is also important to note that Mustafa’s PIMD and cognitive impairment preclude him from any form of independent living and is entirely dependent on me, his father for the constant daily care, safety, nurture and the expression of his needs. This means Mustafa has no autonomy or capacity to understand and is unable to make any decisions concerning his health and care nor is he able to provide informed consent to any of the care provided for by me and this means that Mustafa is legally incompetent.

At around the age of seventeen years, whenever I used to bathe my son or change his diapers or apply physiotherapy and massages, my son started to express his sexual feelings by means of having an erect penis, but his sexual behaviour was unlike earlier times, as he was growing up. It was a consistent sexual expression and became more acute and extended over a longer period of time. I also noticed his body pulling stiff during his moments of erection possibly indicating a slight agitation or confusion. As a father who understood sexual behaviour, I knew that my son was trying to express his sexual feelings because of the arousal that was happening around his body and that this sexual behaviour was no different than most teenagers encounter after puberty in their personal sexual development. I did not think it was strange because I knew my son’s abilities and disabilities and while my son had certain physical and intellectual disabilities he certainly did not have a sexual disability.


When I first encountered my son’s sexual awakening I asked myself “Hang on, what should I do about my son’s sexual expression?” I decided the best thing was to see what professionals were advising parents and caregivers of children with PIMD in similar circumstance of recognizing their children’s sexual awakening and then to act on the advice given. I discovered a consensus amongst professional opinion that all persons with disabilities are sexual human beings and have equal rights to sexual expression. I also discovered that the most prevalent form of sexual expression for individuals with severe or profound “mental retardation” was masturbation and that masturbatory expression was considered to be both therapeutic and important for the overall growth and development of individuals with disability. The practical advice given was that masturbation could be self- practiced or provided by a partner and if this was not possible than a sexual therapist or sex worker. However, to my surprise, all the articles by professionals referenced their advice to persons with disabilities who had the capacity to understand and provide consent, even if this was in a limited way. The advice ignored and excluded those persons with disabilities who could not understand or provide consent. The main reason for the exclusion was that professionals treated persons with disabilities as a homogenous group based on their IQ score and used the standard of a profoundly disabled person as a person who was able to understand and communicate consent. This standard was used despite the vast differences of disability within the group. As Craft and Downs aptly stated “The label of profound and multiple impairment is deceptively succinct and in numerical terms it covers the smallest proportion of those with learning difficulties. However, the label masks the enormous diversity subsumed within it.” (Sexuality and Profound Multiple Impairment). This exclusion created a contradiction of the ethics proposed that all disabled persons are equal sexual human beings, since it discriminated against profoundly disabled persons based on their intellectual capacity. On the one hand you had professionals stating that all disabled persons are equal sexual human beings and should not be discriminated based on their disabilities and on the other hand you had professionals denying sexual therapy treatment to profoundly disabled persons because of their disability of not being able to understand or provide any form of consent.

After reading and studying the advice given by professionals regarding the sexuality of persons with PIMD, it left me bewildered and perplexed and in a sense in a “no man’s land.” I thought the only way forward was to treat my son equally to other disabled persons and apply the professional advice given to other profoundly disabled persons, namely, therapeutic masturbation to relieve and gratify my son’s sexual expression. As Mustafa’s profound disability, both physically and intellectually, excluded him from practicing self-masturbation or having a partner, the only alternative was to have therapeutic masturbation applied by a sexual therapist or sex worker. However, living in South Africa, I found myself in a difficult situation or predicament regarding the professional sexual therapist or sex worker to provide for the therapeutic masturbation of my son. There are no medical or other professionals such as physiotherapists or sexual therapist providing a service of therapeutic masturbation to people with disabilities and the only alternative was to consider the use of a sex worker. However, this option was also fraught with difficulties. First of all, sex work is illegal in South Africa, secondly it implied additional financial resources and the burden of payments on top of the high cost of looking after all the needs of a disabled person that I can ill afford and thirdly, I am not aware of any sex workers in South Africa who are trained to provide for the sexual therapy requirements of persons with disabilities. It was at this stage that I soon came to realise that there was no alternative way to provide the therapeutic masturbation that my son needed other than to apply the therapeutic masturbation on my own.

I remember the first day I applied the therapeutic masturbation to my son. It felt completely natural as I already had a deep sense of intimacy with my son’s body through the process of massaging him, bathing him, changing his diapers and cleaning and touching his genitals and other private parts. The therapeutic masturbation was a natural extension of what I was already doing in taking care of my son’s body. I also remember how my son expressed a sense of relief, delight and happiness with a smile followed by laughter and other sounds of contentment when I applied the therapeutic masturbation. His body also succumb through orgasm to indicate his enjoyment of the masturbation. The reaction indicated a positive acceptance of the therapeutic masturbation by my son, both physically and emotionally. The therapeutic masturbation also led to a calmness in my son’s behaviour and he continues to show his contentment and happiness to all around him.
After the decision of applying therapeutic masturbation to my profoundly disabled son I contemplated on my action and in the year of 2007 decided to publicly pronounce on my action. The reason I decided to make an announcement was threefold. Firstly, it was my advocacy of human rights. I felt that as a parent I had the fundamental right to positively influence my son’s sexual development and as a father who has been personally looking after his son’s health and interests since birth, I could not ignore his sexuality. Had I done nothing, I would have been failing in my duty and it would not have been in the best interests of my son. Secondly, I was inspired by the story of Ashley X, a severely disabled incompetent young girl whose parents opted for oestrogen therapy, a hysterectomy and breast removal – the so-called ‘Ashley treatment’ – in order to reduce her projected adult weight and improve her quality of life. I felt as if I was in the shoes of Ashley X’s parents, trying innovative medical treatment to try and provide her with happiness and a good quality of life. Thirdly, I felt I had a duty and responsibility not only to my child but to all the other children with PIMD whose sexuality and sexual expression was not recognised or ignored. The initial reaction by the public when I first disclosed my action was similar to the reaction of the parent’s medical treatment of Ashley X, one of shock and disgust. It was only when I began to explain the masturbation as a therapeutic sexual treatment that was taken in the best interest of my son’s health and wellbeing that it changed the perception of the public that I was sexually abusing my son.
It is worth mentioning that there are a few articles by professionals concerning persons with PIMD who had no capacity to understand or provide consent but this was mainly in the context of sexual abuse by parents, caregivers, friends or strangers. I am in complete agreement with the ethics and laws to protect profoundly disabled persons from sexual abuse but I would defend my action by stating that the therapeutic masturbation I am providing to my son is, by definition, not a sexual act but a medical treatment and would fall under the contentious ethical issue of the rights of parents to provide medical treatment to a person who cannot understand or provide consent, similar to the case of Ashley X.

The reason why almost all parents and caregivers ignore or fail to recognise the sexuality of children with PIMD is complex and varied but some of the main reasons are:
  • ·         Parents and caregivers are so overwhelmed by the basic daily care of children with PIMD that they cannot even consider the sexuality of their profoundly disabled and dependent child. Parents and caregivers tend to prioritize the multiple disabilities facing the child such as physical and sensory impairments, communication impairments, incontinence, impairments concerning mobility, behavioural challenges and consider the sexuality and sexual expression of the child as least important or not worth considering.
  • ·         Parents are uneducated about the sexuality and sexual expression of persons with disabilities which makes it difficult on how to act when encountering the sexual awakening of persons with PIMD.
  • ·         Religious and cultural beliefs of parents and caregivers exclude the profoundly disabled child from being regarded as a sexual human being and parents face moral dilemmas when confronted by their disabled child’s sexuality.
  • ·         There is a taboo in discussing general sexual matters such as masturbation in society and this attitude gets aggravated in the discussion of sexuality of persons with disability.
  • ·         The legal law stating that any sexual activity with a non-autonomous person who cannot understand and provide informed consent is regarded as sexual abuse, stops any parent or caregiver from wanting to provide sexual therapy.
  • ·         Parents and caregivers find that they are unable to access professional help from sexual therapist and / or sex workers because they are either non-existent, illegal or untrained to provide the necessary sexual therapy treatment for persons with PIMD.

I conclude by stating that I know the fundamental and vital role that parents and caregivers play in providing care and nurture of children with disabilities. I also understand the difficulties confronting parents and caregivers in the daily care of children with PIMD. It is within this context that I wish to appeal to parents and caregivers to consider that such care and nurture includes sexual care and this begins by recognizing that all persons with disabilities are sexual human beings. It is not my intention to antagonise or ridicule parents and caregivers to arrive at this recognition but to use my personal experience and love of my son with profound disability to cajole and hopefully inspire other parents and caregivers to help resolve the dilemma when they encounter the sexual expression of their own children with disabilities. Persons with PIMD are the most vulnerable persons of our society and they need the help of all able-bodied persons, like you and me, including parents and caregivers, to be able to give expression to their silent voice. Finally, most of what I have stated is beautifully encapsulated by a giant of a social worker and lecturer, Ann Craft in a saying way back in 1987:

‘To be a human being is to be a sexual being. Although there may be a range of intensity, varying over time, we all have sexual needs, feelings and drives, from the most profoundly handicapped to the most able among us. Although we can shape (and mis-shape) sexual expression, sexuality is not an optional extra which we in our wisdom can choose to bestow or withhold according to whether or not some kind of intelligence test is passed.’
                                                                                                              
Fayzal Mahamed is a research associate with the Dept. of Humanities at the University of Johannesburg and is an advocate of social and human rights. He is collaborating with Marlene de Beer, a social work lecturer in the University of Johannesburg, to produce a paper detailing the experience of Fayzal’s care of his profoundly disabled son. The website for details on this impending paper is: www.academia.edu/21850900/Paternal_therapeutic_masturbation_of_a_disabled_son_and_a_sexual_assistance_campaign_-_Article_by_Marlene_de_Beer_and_Fayzal_Mahamed

PS. Since opening this blog the article was published by Exceptional Parent (EP) magazine in June, 2016. Exceptional Parent is dedicated to the welfare and care of persons with disabilities. The article was critically peer reviewed by the board of Exceptional Parent magazine and these included psychologist and legal experts. While the publication of the magazine does not indicate the approval of my actions of masturbating my son with disabilities it was published so as to create awareness and a broader debate concerning the sexuality of persons with profound disability. It should also be noted that Exceptional Parent would not have published the article if they for a moment thought I was abusing my son or that my actions would lead to the sexual abuse of other persons with disabilities.

225 comments:

  1. Amazing story. Very compassionate and loving. Thanks for sharing

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    1. Totally immoral, illegal, abusive, filthy, and unnecessary.

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    2. Mate - the author - you're a sick fuck. Justifying your own twisted self indulgence; taking advantage of a helpless individuals disability. Sad reality is - there's many more out there like you - sick bastards.
      Get an asian woman, put her on retainer, and have a freakin' female non-relative do it at minimal cost - you depraved piece of shit. You want to really indulge you sick ass homosexual side?? Come over here, n I'll fuck you 'till you love me faggot!!

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    3. I totally agree with the principle - everyone needs sexual release, and it's overlooked with the disabled, for many of the reasons you mentioned.
      But everything else I wrote stands.

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    4. Amazing story? This is absolutely disgusting you sick fuck. Fuck you.

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    6. I fucking sincerely hope this shit is fake because...you’ve got to be fucking kidding me. Jesus Christ.

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    7. Hey Jimbo. Fuck you with your asian woman comment, are you for fucking real? Why don't you have your mother do it for him for free?

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    8. I can't believe you don't pay a prostitute to do this. They could offer him a much more natural and authentic experience. Feed your son, cloth him, but please, get a member of the opposite sex to give him these kind of experiences, and make sure they're not related.

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  2. It is really great that you chose to give your son what he wanted, acknowledge his sexual needs and spoke about this not just for Mustafa but people with PIMD all around the globe. Best wishes and prayers for your endeavour. Much thanks and love for sharing.

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    1. Quick kill yourself too. You stupid fucking idiots.

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    2. Honestly tho. What kind of fucked up person jacks off their own DISABLED son? How much gayer can you get dude wtf

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    3. A guy is jerking off his own son and your issue with it is that it seems "gay"?

      jfc

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  3. This moved me so much and opened my eyes to the many ways in which we erase the sexual desires of people with severe disabilities.you are a wonderful father and caregiver.thank you for sharing this with the world,with us.May you and Mustafa remain blessed,wishing you happiness and love.

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    1. You mean happy incest you dumb fuck. Go kill yourself.

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    2. Eggz, I hope you know that encouraging suicide is illegal and you can be fined a shit ton of money for it. Stop being a douchebag just because someone disagrees with you.

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    3. I agree with eggz but you shouldn't tell people to kill themselves but seriously this is very gross and disgusting. Your a sicko, my cousin is disabled he can't talk or walk or do anything he dose get an erection but my aunt and uncle have never once "jerked him off" that's gross I understand you think your "helping him" but honestly i think it's so you can also get your rocks while jerking off your own son that's what perverts do and your a pervert there's way to help our children and stroking there dick or vagina is no where near it. If my daughter's were disabled and if I like saw they were sexually frustrated I wouldn't fucking masturbate them or touch any of there private parts sexually that's so fucking wrong and disgusting. Why you announce is even more fucked up I don't think your son is safe with you I think your ex wife should have him at least he'll stop being molested. God hire a fucking hooker! Ew this is nasty!! Shame on you! Your poor poor son!

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    4. Wow, you sound like a moron Eggz, quit telling people to kill themselves. This father did the best thing he could for his son. Yeah, it initially sounds weird, but read the article you illiterate morons.

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    5. I agree with Eggz here, Off your selves please. Sky dive with a fridge, Chug a mug of lighter fluid. Marry Courtney Love. Anything to end you life.

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    6. Fucking disgusting, but i wonder if the father takes his son's load in the face

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  4. You are a very responsible and one of the most loving parents in the universe. Your piece holds a mirror to ways in which I am passively complicit with others in invisibilizing the needs of people with PMID and other severe disabilities. Thank you ever so much for sharing it. May you and your child always be in care, comfort, joy and love.

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    1. Your just as fucking bad. Kill yourself please.

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    2. Egg go troll some where else and while your at it go jump off a cliff or blue your brains out or remember it's down the highway not across or jump in front of a bus or train or off a building. I mean seriously you non article reading piece of fucking human waste. Holy shut I wish you get an any rise or drown. What a spiteful fucking cunt you are. How did that fell? Did you like that? But no seriously take a bath and drop a hairdryer in it.

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    3. You like jerking off retards too?? You people should all hop on the short bus together and fly it off a fucking cliff!

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    4. Very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very sick

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  5. Fayzal sahab, salute to you. Thank you so much for sharing this. You have put things in right perspective. Truly inspirational and humane.

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    1. You'd probably like to wank a dude off too? Fayzal sounds like a cock suckers name.

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    2. seriously, how dare this man try and give his profoundly disabled son, as best of life he can, including the sexual part of life, it would be far better for society, if he just put his son in a nice institution, where "out of sight, out of mind" that way he can just forget he exists, and the sight of him, will not cause others discomfort. It worked for the Kennedy's after they had Rosemary lobotomized.

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    3. Eggz you are my hero, I read this article and it's fucked up, if my son was like that I'm not putting my ass on the line as Sexual predator, fuck that, I'll hire a clean hooker to do it, shit. But for real though, this dude needs some damn bleach

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    4. Eggs, firstly, forget Fayzal, your name sounds like a pair of drained out balls.

      Now about your opinion on this man, be thankful that you have the ability to wank yourself. Just imagine, you are stormed with thoughts and desires with no means to express what comes to your mind.

      Now, imagine your face and body to be ass crooked and messed up as your thought process.

      Imagine having an erection/being wet, being aroused and not being able to comprehend what to do with it.


      Judging someone for what he did is so fucking easy, if the person had malice or ill will in what he was doing, he wouldn't have dared to be public.

      And lastly, it's a father's judgement to put his son in ease.

      I guess you were sexually abused by you alcoholic father, and hence you have such hatred for what Fayzal did.

      Acknowledge, learn and grow.

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    5. I bet Eggz and his supporter voted for Trump if they were from USA... C'mon, your overreaction about this show a total lack of intellect and so much bigotry...

      While I agree this is uncommon, and even questionable to some extent, I don't think you have any right to judge him. He's explaining everything with solid arguments, that maybe you are too short sighted to understand...

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    6. Sanchez no offence bit I agree that eggs takes it way to far but this is consinered incest

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  6. Love and Respect
    I am doing my PhD on the lives of children with disability,the note is truly amazing

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  7. Salute you! Did not even know that such a need existed for these people! Ashamed of my ignorance and moved by the father's love!

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  8. Your conscience and mind is as pure as a pristine mountain rivulet.Kudos for unfolding your wonderful heart !!!

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  9. Opening the gateway to better understand the people with disabilities and their rights in a scientific way. This shows how long the road is in enlightening minds of people and be empathetic to disabled persons in every possible way and to help.

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  10. Thank you very much for sharing this, Sir. It is truly eye-opening.

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  11. This is the most fucked up thing I have seen in my 19 years of living. I'm pretty sure this violates the non aggression principle. Someone that disabled wouldn't know what's going on and cannot consent. A definite NAP violation. Kys commie Nazi scum

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    1. Your 19 years? Well maybe live another 20 and you'll open your eyes a bit more. You're still a child.. No one expects you to understand.

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    2. We need another Hitler, NOW.

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    3. Well hitler bred twins ....so he'd probably be all for this.

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    4. listen, you colossal douche. Any human who doesn't understand what socially accepted version of pleasure is wouldn't understand it till he has experienced it. Same goes with Mustafa who got excited and relieved as well. Unlike you, who, in your 19 years would have jacked off innumerable number of times (And if you have the count then WHY do you have it?), Mustafa doesn't know how to do it. And someone who he has come to trust does it, it is more natural for him as well.

      I don't see the problem, rather think of the long term psychological benefits he'd have. That apart, if his dad has put so much thought in writing this much, maybe he knows more than you and took everything into account, without waiting for you to enlighten the world with your witty and wonderfully articulate comment :)

      Grow up soon

      Thanks

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    5. I actually am asd and I know fucked up shit when I see it. I would be able to tell what it's like to have a disability more than you Fucking retarded incest praising cucks

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    6. He is not consenting to being wanked off by his dad. I personally, if become disabled pray my dad does not jerk me off. I'll just stay un-jerked off... It's ok, I'll get over it. Thx

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    7. Whoever agrees with this is also a fucking sicko this isn't ok it's sick and wrong especially with your own son ew just gross gross gross I hope someone hangs you for what your doing! You sick nasty pervert!

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    8. Carissa, it's not a steamy session of brazzers that you are expecting between a father and son.

      It is sick if, someone sane and physically capacitated indulges in this thing.

      Would you or anyone you know sleep with Mustafa for relieving him, knowing that he does have an erection, his body expresses the need for sexual satisfaction.

      It's gross to imagine a father wanking off his son, but it is not some fetish, he was releasing the stress and anxiety that was building inside him because of his inability to understand and express what he needs.

      Hope you give it a thought in a less critical and more understanding way. You might just understand.

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    9. I wasn't saying it to be mean but that's a little strange to be jerking his son's dick off for him I understand he was trying to relieve his son sexual desire but like some people say hire a clean hooker don't do it yourself a father come on that is nasty your own father I would not want my father to jerk me off if I was disabled I want want my mom to touch me or any part of my family I'd want some man to touch me to relieve me if I was disabled I wasn't trying to criticize this man but it is disgusting that he is jerking off his own son if my daughters were disabled I would not rub their vaginas to sexually satisfy them because that is disgusting parents should not do that to their kids no matter how old and no matter how sexually frustrated they are I would not do that even to help them because that's just disgusting that is incest I'm sorry if that's what you do not believe but it's true it's not being criticizing towards him I'm just saying the truth that's gross father should not be touching his own Son in that sexual way look I want to be understanding but not about that that's just disgusting to me like if it was a man that wasn't his father I wouldn't care I mean it's what he likes if he's gay bisexual who cares but not by his father I mean it who cares if he's gay and wants to be touched by a dude but not by his own father I mean come on man that is disgusting

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    10. Totally agree. This dude is sick I guarantee that he gets off on it. Nevermind that it's a homosexual act and there is no way to know the patients sexuality, he may or may not like dudes. But to have it done by his own father, that is beyond horrible. You can find anything online including, I'm certain, a non-relative who could perform this service. They guy enjoys wanuking his vegetable of a kid and that is twisted as all fuck. The kid should be put out of its misery and the father jailed as a molester for life

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    11. Your a real bitch for this comment

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  12. This is the most fucked up thing I have seen in my 19 years of living. I'm pretty sure this violates the non aggression principle. Someone that disabled wouldn't know what's going on and cannot consent. A definite NAP violation. Kys commie Nazi scum

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    1. Nigga, if this the most fucked up thing you've seen, you haven't lived yet.

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    2. Holy shit you are as retarded as the kid in the article.

      Nazi is the literal opposite of commie you dumbass. Your moral stance on this makes you lean towards Nazi (which is a good thing). The people supporting this degeneracy on the other hand are filthy commies.

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    3. I see no difference. They both claim to be for the worker end up in mass murder and are both collectivist ideologies

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    4. Exactly I totally agree with you this is just beyond gross after I read it I wanted to puke and still do ick if my daughter's were disabled I wouldn't fucking do this nasty shit to them! Idk why parents do this well some parents!!!

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    5. "nigga, if this is the most fucked up thing you've ever read/seen, you haven't lived yet."
      Truer words have never been spoken, BoB s Vag. That's some funny shit right there. And true. How bout come back with some new shocks and horror after you're old enough

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  13. Dude you are fucked up taking advantage of someone who is disabled. Essentially abusing your own son in the name of altruism. Be ashamed. Don't think that because a few people support what you did means it's ok. It's NOT. I am seeking out the right avenues to get authorities to your place of residence. Hire the kid a sex workers. If he wasn't disabled he sure as hell wouldn't want to be jerked off by his dad you sick and demented individual. He cannot consent to the relationship. You are abusing him and molesting him essentially. Burn in hell you sicko

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    1. How would hiring a sex-worker ensure consent ?

      There's a difference between providing sexual therapy and sexual exploitation.

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  14. Can't hire an escort.... no fhat would be wrong, clearly a parent is the right person.... I mean why stop there why not fuck him as well, after all you could hire someone, but that's so wrong... ....

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  15. He expressed himself with erection. How would you know if he wanted it in the butt or not?

    Quit fucking around and put your mouth on it Brah

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    1. Dj Wow... Really? Did your mom drop you on your head 100 times as a baby? Something is seriously wrong with you.

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  17. Absolutely disgusting. You should be ashamed.

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  18. alright, you think this is good for him but you know nothing. You shouldve gone with a reverse cowgirl instead of that shit. If he wants his sexual desires acknowledged hit him the home run. The Steamer would give him just as much appreciation you selfish cunt.

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  19. Reading this story made me horne. You have inspired me to wank all of my sons thank you lov u muah muah kisses sex plz xd

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  20. this ia a truly inspiring story of a gay dad exploring his sexuality in an incestuous way with his son. thank you and send bobs/vegene

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  21. I will love eat his boipucci anyday fam.

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  22. Hm, have you ever considered giving him a blowjob?

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    1. These comments are cracking me up.

      I swear this dad is a predator.

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  23. You're a sick fuck. Why even mention about this publically as if this is something to be proud of? I bet your IQ is lower than your son's

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    1. This was required for raising a debate between people who have presumed notions about right and wrong, without understanding the situation. This needed to come in front of public to make them understand, sexualities are not necessarily driven by desire but also by need.

      He isn't looking for anyone's approval or even advocacy, he just shared a story of his life.

      For you sexuality is driven by desire, you can wank yourself whenever you need to, imagine having and erection for years and not being able to do anything for it.

      It's not as simple as black or white.

      Put yourself in their shoes, and just imagine.

      And rather than thinking of a comeback, just sit and contemplate.

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  24. What in thee hell is this fuckery?

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  25. That's not how you spell "how I rape my child who I acknowledge has an IQ below 20 and neither understands language nor is able to communicate consent." ��

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  26. This is absolutely horrifying to read. Were is child protective services when you need them. You are the parent. Thats not your job to jerk your son untill he orgasms. What the actaul fuck. It would be completely different if it was a father touching his daughters clitoris for pleasure. I cant with this article. Hopefully its fake.

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    2. Lol nice troll lauren but that would be maybe more fucked up if some dad was rubbing his retarded daughters bean what in the fuck nigga

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  27. This is fucking disgusting!!!! Go eat some buck shot you fuck. No wonder your wife left.

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  28. Remember to kiss him on the lips when he comes.

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  29. Way to go Dad! My uncle was kind enough to show me some tricks and teach me to be his cum dumpster, and now that the statute of limitations is up I can talk about it. I have a retarded cousin that I'm sure could use some help, and you have inspired me to wanna show her the ropes. I've been her tard wrangler for 8 yrs, or since she was born, and I've always wanted to "help her" but wasn't sure I was allowed to until reading your story. I wish my dad was still around to jerk me off. He died a few years ago. That's a long story though, and I've got a handicapped 8 yr old retard to mentor so i gotta go. Thanks though for helping me....You sick piece of shit!!!!

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  30. Someone didnt get enough attention as a boy. Hope you made some decent $ off google adwords or something.

    Shock and awe - 1

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  31. YOU MOTHER FUCKERS NEED HITLER!

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  32. The fact that this molester is a social worker and there are positive responses means I can never be a social worker again. The world is lost.

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  33. You're literally stroking your retarded son's cock. That's gay. I thought Allah forbids faggotry.

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  34. Try Sticking a finger up his arse, works a treat with my retarded little brother

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  35. If I had a retarded son, I'd certainly be jerking him off! What an inspiring story! Thanks - Lucas (Beardos), Sydney Australia

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  36. Just call up a hooker and do it the right way man poor kid probably can't even imagine some hot chick while ejaculating cause his dad's face right in front of him

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    1. I agree with you. Get a hooker, for heaven's sake. Doing this to your own child? SICK.

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  37. Um, what the hell did I just read? This isn't true is it? Just another attempt for the world to normalize incest(along with their agenda to normalize pedophilia). It sucks(maybe from an outsider's point of view, maybe he has a different understanding of his situation beyond a Human Mindset), he is disabled, severely, which bars him from sexual interactions with others most likely. You as a blood relatives, and parent should not be doing this, no one should be interacting with their child, or any child in a sexual manner.

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  38. don't listen to these angry cunts. I'm sure they live sad, and meaningless lives. I don't know if I could do what you are doing, but i admire your bravery in an area that is very controversial. you fucks think he wants to give his son sexual therapy... its his fucking son he wants him to be happy, to live a good life. I'm sure a hooker would love to do that! you know a hooker can say no... have some compassion you beta-trolls

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  39. You're child cannot consent. This is the definition of sexual abuse. I genuinely hope this article gets to the proper authorities.

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  40. Scrolling through these comments and all I see is Eggz telling everyone to kill themselves. I'm wondering if he is that into this artical and maybe he is trying to strongly emphasize how he would never do this and if you do, you should "kill yourself" so that he may potentially cover up his real emotions about this. Maybe he's gay, maybe he is giving second thoughts about "maybe jerking your son isn't such a bad thing".. Maybe he is just strongly suggesting and encouraging these innocent people to off themselves with no regard of possible familial depression and further suicides. If you think Eggz should kill himself instead, reply "Yes" otherwise, reply "No". I personally think he should stay alive and maybe further his education so that in the future he could at least deliver his message in a more creative way. In that sense, Eggz, I applaud you for making such remarks to express your feelings as did this disabled gentleman featured in this article, I wish you much luck for your future.

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  41. I am sorry but no this is so unethical and messed up words cannot begin. let's start with how when the father saw his sons bomer his first reaction was , how can I help my son express his sexuality? Who thinks like that? Also even if this child was able to concent and how a normal iq. A parent doing an exsplicit act on a chil IS RAPE. he was a minor at 17 . I'm not denying that touch therapy is a great thing, like message therapy, etc. but you crossed a line. I also won't deny that even the profoundly handy caped are sexual people, As sexually is a basic human function. BUT u are his parent!!!! Not His sexual partner!!!!!! No matter how u word this it's sexual abuse. Shame on you!!'

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  42. I am sorry but no this is so unethical and messed up words cannot begin. let's start with how when the father saw his sons bomer his first reaction was , how can I help my son express his sexuality? Who thinks like that? Also even if this child was able to concent and how a normal iq. A parent doing an exsplicit act on a chil IS RAPE. he was a minor at 17 . I'm not denying that touch therapy is a great thing, like message therapy, etc. but you crossed a line. I also won't deny that even the profoundly handy caped are sexual people, As sexually is a basic human function. BUT u are his parent!!!! Not His sexual partner!!!!!! No matter how u word this it's sexual abuse. Shame on you!!'

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  43. This shit is fucking disgusting. If you ever want someone to kill themselves just send them the link to this shit, it will surely push them over the edge.

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  44. What I would like to know is how he, or other fathers in his position, would have dealt with this issue if his child was female. The ashley treatment, giving her estrogen, removing her uterus, and removing her breasts does not, in my opinion, get rid of her sexual desires. Females can have desires just like males have. Albeit, in a male, a lack of release can be quite painful over time, and I dont believe females suffer the same type of pent up sensations as a testosterone filled 18yr old male, surely they desire, and enjoy, and gain relief from orgasmic release on an emotional level like anybody else. Im just curious how this would be handled if the disabled person were female.

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    1. as a female suffering from extreme pain from the condition you just described, I must disagree. At least some percentage of females experience pain and suffering when they can't orgasm.
      The Ashley Treatment wasn't meant to keep her from being sexual - Ashley started puberty at a very young age, and if she was allowed to complete puberty she would have been a full-grown woman, making it more difficult to care for her. By stopping her puberty she remains child-size and is easier for her parents to move around. We're still talking about a huge person to move - about 4'6" and weighing 80 pounds, imagine if she grew a foot taller and another hundred pounds

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    2. ok, in that case, they mutilated her for making it easier FOR THEM to handle her... that's so fucked up!

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  45. This is so far the most Fucked-Up story I've ever read.... This is incest....

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  46. Holy fuck nigger why not just go around the world jerking off all the lonely retards there are? You could go down in the history books as Jerkoff George, the saviour of the retards

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  47. ...Even the best fall down sometimes.

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  48. Eugenics anyone. We need Pinochet and Hitler back

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    1. This is not masturbation. Masturbation is what you do to yourself. This is a hand job and also, this is incestuous and I am sure illegal.

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  50. Er, "boundaries"? Get a private nurse for this sort of stuff, you idiot. Your son may make a natural conditioned association between you, erections, and orgasms, and so the parental caring role gets beyond confused.

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  51. You couldn't hire someone to do that? You had to do it yourself? Ever heard of incest?

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    1. Did you not read the article? Perhaps if we created a kickstarter you can help pay for a weekly nurse for the next twenty years. Here in the US that would come to about $800 monthly just for that therapy, or maybe around a total of just under $200,000 for the foreseeable future.

      Pan out and you have a real entitlement to an opinion.

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    2. Why do people make comments when they clearly didn't read the article or can't read period... He can't afford one first off and secondly what's he lives there is a lack of therapists that specialize in that area.

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    3. ***where he lives ****correction

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    4. I don't give a FUCK what he can afford. He has no right to touch his son. Mustafa can't consent to his "therapy" nor anyone else's. There's advocating for your child and raping them, and he crossed the line as soon as he wanked his own son off.

      Yes, even people as profoundly disabled as Mustafa have sexual needs, but it's not ethical to have someone wank him off because he. Can't. Consent. him getting hard or getting off isn't enough to justify incestuous rape. I hope that Mustafa is taken somewhere where he's free from this shit.

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    5. You're all disgusting freaks.. whoever agrees with the dad needs to kill themselves!! Disgusting,wrong.. immoral... Illegal and straight up evil!! PLEASE GET SOME COMMON SENSE

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  52. well done for having the guts to admit to this & bring this out in the open, to those who say its incest/abuse, the father isnt doing it for his own pleasure, if he was then it WOULD BE abuse/incest. we have ALL been sexually frustrated but we hav the ability to relive ourselves, this lad doesnt have that ability so as a good parent he did what had to be done. resulting in an happier contented lad

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    1. he also states he cant afford a sex worker, & in south africa i dont blame him not using them even if he could afford it

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    2. I would find the money rather than wank off my own son.

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  53. I had to stop here, "This means Mustafa has no autonomy or capacity to understand and is unable to make any decisions concerning his health and care nor is he able to provide informed consent to any of the care provided for by me and this means that Mustafa is legally incompetent. You are molesting your son and should be in prison.

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  54. People tend to ignore how they would feel as men in the same situation being disabled. I think it is very courageous what you are doing,...and intuitively should always go onwards towards what's best with your son. Best of regards, and ignore the judgemental idiots who are clueless of life experience,... one only knows if one has experienced such a thing.

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    1. If I was disabled, which I am technically, I wouldn't want anyone to rape me. Fuck you you are literally scum and justify rape

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    2. If I was disabled, which I am technically, I wouldn't want anyone to rape me. Fuck you you are literally scum and justify rape

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    3. You're an autistic idiot if you agree with the dad. Fucked up and sick world we live in... Can't wait for the evil idiots die and burn in hell forever. Should of been a normal person instead of a sick disgusting braindead loser

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  55. As a disabled person, I find this EXTREMELY wrong and disgusting. I don't care what country you come from, or what culture you are... it is NEVER okay to essentially have an incestual relationship. I understand that sex workers are illegal there, but i'm sorry... hiring a sex worker would be the LESSER of the two evils. Any living being is a sexual being in theory, but not every sexual being needs NOR wants to have sex or sexual intimacy. Let alone with their OWN father. The fact that this young man appeared to orgasm is irrelevant. There's millions of nerve endings on the end of a penis, and it's a damn easy appendage to stimulate... of course he's going to orgasm, no matter who touches him. Rape victims orgasm. Doesn't mean they want it OR enjoy it. If his son could not consent or ask for sexual gratification in some way, and express WHO he wanted to have sexual gratification with or from... he should not be touched. This is NOT natural and it is NOT normal. This is NOT some forward thinking revolutionary thing to do. Educate yourself on sexual needs. Promote relationships with women outside of your family. Introduce him to disabled people in disabled groups... but DO NOT misuse and abuse your power and his trust in you. This is sickening. YUCK!!!

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  56. As if being born retarded and into a Muslim family weren’t bad enough, he was born into an incestuous one as well. He’s batting .300. Poor Mustafa.

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  57. You're one sick, twisted individual! I hope you get what you deserve!

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  58. You're one sick, twisted individual! I hope you get what you deserve!

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  59. No ability to consent = RAPE
    If a profoundly drunk person cannot consent and all...

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  60. I am torn as to if I think this is wrong or right. I personally would not choose to do this. I use to work for a man who had cerebral palsy. He could not walk but he could talk and had very limited use of his hands, he could push buttons but his hands were in a bent position, i think it would be impossible for him to masterbate. Anyways every morning when i woke him up to get him cleaned up n dressed he had an erection. It was like the elephant n the room we didnt mention but i could see the dried up cum on his body and i came to believe that bc he couldn't do it on his own that his body simply released it like a wet dream or something. I didn't know if this was the case but it was my assumption. I felt bad for him so i can empathize with u however i just can't bring myself to believe that this could ever feel "natural." Is there a medical term stating this is ok or any research done on this? Idk there's a real thin line there and i truly believe that in the eyes of the law u r wrong but who am i to judge im not n your position. I do think u r doing this in an altruistic manner and not raping your son but that doesn't necessarily mean it's ok but again im not in your position. If u were hiring a hooker i would be entirely more understanding and how expensive would it really be, im sure he gets off very quickly and what diseases would worry u if he just got a hand job pr blow job. Idk this is a really strange topic good luck...

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  61. I am disabled and I would not want my parents to touch me like this, ever. The thought is frankly terrifying.

    Bathing someone and touching them sexually are not the same thing.

    It might be a matter of quality of life, but it is not in itself medical. It is sexual. Having an erection is not in itself a sign that your son wants to have sex or that he is consenting to sexual activity with his father - it is a natural physiological reaction.

    Would you do the same if it were your daughter? Is a woman's sexuality somehow different to a man's?

    There is a world of difference between a partner or a sex worker touching your son sexually and you as a father touching your own son sexually. I doubt any of these comments will change your mind at all but gosh, I really feel for your son. Rape and sexual assault are not always violent. Your son has a relationship with you as his father that should never ever be sexual. Not because he is not a sexual being. Because familial relationships should never be sexual.

    If you don't think that he can consent how on earth do you believe that you can consent on his behalf?

    Please, please move somewhere else, hire a sex worker, campaign for the decriminalisation of sex work, do anything other than continuing to touch your son in an inappropriate way and advocating for other parents to do the same.

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  62. Right... and if it were his daughter?
    Would it still be as lovely a story?
    #sexism

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  63. Yikes. Definitely sick. Is dad a "sexual therapist"? Nope. So he isn't specially trained for this either and I have a feeling that anyone who was would not be allowed to practice on a member of their own family. Being incest and all. Having an erection is not the same as giving consent.
    What a hell of a precedent to set. Does this mean if rapists say that they are providing sex therapy they can rape the disabled without fear of punishment? Just horrible.

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    1. true. disabled people already get sexually assaulted more than the general population and living in an institution isolates them from mainstream society.

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  64. "This means Mustafa has no autonomy or capacity to understand and is unable to make any decisions concerning his health and care nor is he able to provide informed consent to any of the care provided for by me and this means that Mustafa is legally incompetent."

    You blatantly stated he cannot understand nor give consent. You are taking your child. This is deeply disturbing.

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  65. This is incest. Find a physical therapist that will do it, oh wait. They wont. No parent is allowed to do anything sexual with their children. Its the fucking law too.

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    2. Jessica did u not read the article about why he couldn't get a sexual therapist that specialize in things like this? Not bc its illegal but bc there is a lack of them where he lives and it costs too much

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    3. But they do exist and no its not illegal actually

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    1. It was too big to fit all of it in my mouth. Do you want to see the video?

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  67. The healthy human instinct is to react with strong repulsion at the thought of incest, and that's what we're seeing here in the comments section. But sometimes we should take a step back from our instincts and let logic decide what's best. Clearly the father has done that and he knows what works for the son he's been taking care of for the past 3 decades. I applaud the father for bringing this uncomfortable matter to public attention so that it can hopefully help others who care for the disabled.

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  68. How often is he masterbating his son that he cant afford a hooker once in a while. Im just saying im sure his kid would enjoy a bj way more than his dads big rough hands. They cost like 20 bucks.

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  69. You're a sick, delusional man. An erection doesn't always mean you want sexual attention, and even if it DID, you have NO right to touch your son (or anyone else) in that way when they have no means of consenting!

    And to reference Ashley X only cements for me that this is about you and not Mustafa. Ashley's parents didn't want the hassle of dealing with her menstruation and growing size, so they had her mutilated. And you want to be a heroic advocate for the sexual rights of the disabled, so you molest your son.

    I hope there's a hell, because that's where you and Mom and Pop X belong.

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    1. totally agree. parents stunting their disabled children's growth is highly exploitative and so is sexually exploiting them in the name of sexual rights.

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  70. 1 question, was jacking off your wife or your son better? Which made you cum harder?

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  71. You’re a disgusting man, who is sick in the mind. You’re lucky you’re not a convicted pedophile. This is absolutely disgusting, immoral, disgusting, and immoral behavior and you need more medical assistance than your son you deranged pedopheliac

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  72. Guy gives his kid a handjob, says it's theropy lol

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  73. As a parent, I can honestly say that I would never consider this, though I do recognize that my children are not disabled. I could not possibly reach that conclusion. I think maybe advocating for some sort of therapist that might do these things would be great, but I just can't for the life of me find the logical reasoning in the father doing it himself

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  74. I could not do this. As a child who has experienced sexual abuse where the parent thought it was fine, I have a bias. Also: bodies respond differently to emotions and morality.
    As an example - which is a little horrific in itself. My body responds during tension/sex scenes when reading the book 'Lolita' (currently), do I masturbate? NO. Do I act on it, NO. Its basically a book on paedophilia, which I abhor, my mind and emotions are horrified but my body responds. Its the same with child sexual abuse - their bodies may naturally respond, they may feel pleasure (which later causes a lot of unnecessary shame), or if out of your mind drunk/drugged and being raped - your body may responds while genuinely not wanting it.

    We have minds and morals for a reason. Boundaries are important. Following natural urges and impulses as a justification is not always a good idea!! Keeping the boundary between a parent and child non-sexual is validly important. He only didnt get someone else to do it due to cost - its not really justifiable. He rationalised the heck out of it but its not right. Where theres no ability to consent, where it crosses important boundaries, its a NO

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  75. How many of you sick people would still call this an amazing story and congratulate him if he was sexually "pleasing"/(abusing) a daughter instead of a son.

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    1. It would be even stranger, but tell me an alternative! Instead of calling this father and pedophile, tell me a way he could treat his own son, by not denying Mustafa is an human being with needs, as you and me! Tell me, please!

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  76. Its rape. Theres no way of know this is actually what Mustafa wants and he cant concent. Rape is rape. My 2 year old nefew wakes up with an erection some mornings. That doesnt mean he needs to be touched.

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  77. This is some twisted shit, what the fuck. Dude, you do not jack off your own son, regardless of his disabilities. This is sexual abuse of a child and is wrong on all accounts. There is no justification for it. You're a chomo, and I hope you end up in an institution for pediophiles.

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  78. Show naked pics of ex wife you sick freak.

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  79. Please let this be fake. This is not only incest, but rape because the person clearly cannot consent given his disabilities, especially his profound intellectual disability. If this is real this sick rapist deserves to die in the most painful way possible.

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  80. Have you let him plough you yet and what do you do with his loads?

    Do you make cum nuggets with all his jizz? Google cum nuggets....

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  81. God bless your spirit and soul. You are actually doing what human needs to be doing with deep love. You allowed God to use you, this what many don't see. I see pure love and learnt that sexual expression is not an option but a need in a positive and ethical context. Thank you for sharing

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  82. Stay out of trouble! Hire a prostitute and limit the activities according to your budget!!!

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  83. This is an extremely tricky situation with valid points on both sides. Somehow I understand your unconventional assistance, esp knowing that Mustafa couldn't possibly find a more involved, knowledgeable, caring and trust worthy sex therapist. Going entirely by your description of your relationship, I trust you wouldn't do anything Mustafa isn't happy or comfortable with. He inhabits a world quite different from the one of labels, judgement and ideals that we do. Without going into the nuances, (including the possibilities of undesirable long term effects of such a practice on either party) I would just like to say that I don't think you deserve such brutal condemnation as has been expressed by the likes of Eggz. I don't think you mean to be incestuous, gay or exploitative. I think that you are just a caring dad who means well and is genuinely doing what he feels us best for his son, all things considered.

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  84. Hi, I read your story and I understand the complex work it takes. I want you to look up this doctor: https://www.youtube.com/user/robertmorsend/videos, he deals in the regeneration of a few quadraplegics and has regenerated them within 1 year and foward depending on how bad the health issue is. Contact him and watch his free videos on health issues weekly. He wants to help all of us. God bless you and your son!

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  85. If you don't eat the ass you are a terrible father.

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  86. Buy him a hooker instead you sick fuck

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  87. This is sexual assault you sick pervert. You should be in prison or worse. You are absolutely disgusting.

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  88. All I'm saying is this.. There are plenty of women out where he lives who would gladly jerk off his son for $20. What exactly was the point. Because I have a daycare for special needs children and adults and many of the parents face that problem and I GUARANTEE you that they are not masterbating their children. What has the world came too. OMG. My heart goes out to the young man.

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  89. Ok, this is my real comment...

    I think this is a long needed discussion, about the sexuality of people with profound disabilities.

    While the method this father have chosen is quite questionable, I want to think his intentions are good and his arguments true, so starting from there, thinking he really is not trying to abuse his son, I still would think about several alternatives, to actually go and masturbate him, directly... Maybe he has not taking some in account...

    1. Being prostitution and sexual work illegal in South Africa, and not being any sexual therapists around, I think that if the main reason is health, a professional nurse might be able to give Mustafa some Technical, professional relief. I mean if as a parent he is only making the mechanical act of pumping his son so he can "get off" the same could be done by a nurse. Even if he can't find a nurse with the disposition to do this, he might find a charitable woman that would help him relieve his son for a moderate fee.

    2. As someone stated, he can start a movement of awareness that would lead to a change in the rules... He might gather enough parents of PIMD patients (or whatever the acronym is) and amongst all of them hire a sex therapist from abroad, and secure a nice wage for her, and that would be professional help, and no sex work.

    3. There is something called spontaneous night pollutions (what we all call wet dreams) and as far as I remember it is a "defense" mechanism of the body to prevent the issues of not having regular spaced ejaculations... It is also related to strong sexual drive... Does Mustafa have some of those????

    4. Even if nothing of the aforementioned options are possible, there are always some male sexual "toys" (the fleshlight, the japanese onaholes, even some really advance fake pulsating vaginas) that might be an alternative to actually coming and jerking him off

    The thing here is I am genuinely buying this guy's intentions as good and giving some ideas he might have not had by himself.

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  90. You are a sick twisted perverted sexual deviant who is raping his child on a daily basis!! Of course he reacts the way he reacts he doesn't know any better and you're taking advantage of that he has no way to express what he's really thinking or feeling the human body naturally takes over regardless of what your mind says and response just because his body physically likes it doesn't mean that you're not damaging him further in emotionally and mentally you are raping him on a daily basis you are deviant nasty sick twisted individual and I hope and pray for your son that they take him away from you!

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  91. Some nasty shit he should have been put to rest humanly as I would want to be. This is just nasty and dusturbing.

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  92. Illos where is the rarity?

    My friend has a 22 year old down brother and they relieve him among the family members (father, mother, sister older than 30 years and the one who is 25 years old) according to touch once a week.

    Apparently they relieve him on Thursdays after rehabilitation and the silly question every day;

    Is it veves today?

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  93. HIS SON CAN'T CONSENT THIS IS RAPE! THIS IS WHERE LIBERALISM GETS YOU. SEXUAL RELEASE ISN'T NECESSARY.

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  94. So if it was a girl would you use a dildo or finger your daughter??... It's just not right

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  95. There is something that most of the commenters (both pro and con) here don't understand. So, let me explain it in no uncertain terms. You're = you are. Your = possessive. The sooner, we as a people, realize this than the sooner we can all understand eachother on a more profound level.

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  96. You're no better any any rapist. You should be in jail you sick pervert. I suppose if you had a disabled daughter you'd be flat out raping her and trying to justify it like you do here. You're a monster, plain and simple.

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  97. there is so much wrong with this. so much. and why did u make a whole blog just dedicated to this topic? kind of creepy and unnecessary. u don't understand disability rights and theory AT ALL. if you did you would know that yes some advancements have been made in disability rights but often progress is pulled back arbitrarily by the system and society is still fundamentally inaccessible. you are so ignorant and ill informed on disability issues. you are probably one of those people who believe disabled men have a "right" to see a sex worker. sex work is sexual exploitation of women and has nothing to do with the rights of disabled people. what u r doing to your son is not masturbation, its not him doing it its YOU. sexual abuse. sure disabled people have a sexuality but their parents and family should not be the ones indulging it. the only non-problematic thing in this area i can think of is in taiwan there is a non-profit for gay disabled men that sends volunteer to jack people off with gloves on and proper hygiene standards. and accessible sex furniture and sex toys would be okay. positive even. accessible design is always positive and necessary.

    educate yourself:

    http://www.feministcurrent.com/2014/11/11/the-notion-that-its-ok-for-disabled-men-to-pay-for-sex-is-rooted-in-misogyny-and-ableism/

    http://www.feministcurrent.com/2014/04/23/nobodys-entitled-to-sex-including-disabled-people/

    https://crippledscholar.com/2017/07/09/issues-of-disabled-sexuality-and-consent-when-parents-get-involved-in-their-childrens-sex-lives/

    basically stfu stop pretending like you're speaking for your son and the disabled experience. even people with severe CP can learn a native language btw with Blissymbolics. your son does have autonomy! every disabled person has some potential for autonomy and independence but it is stolen from us by ableist society that keeps us from achieving our full potential and participating fully in the wider world.

    you are so warped. seriously. hire a personal care assistant with some kind of med training like nursing who will be more professional about meeting your sons care needs than you are and not sexually exploit him.

    read some critical disability theory. read about intersectional feminism and the concept of sexual consent.

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  98. This was an extremely compassionate and sensitive article; one that has enlightened us to an oft-ignored need of people with different abilities. We so often consider other physical-psychological needs as natural - food, drink, clothing, bathing and hygiene, companionship - but ignore sexuality which is as essential as any other. I commend you for your courage in writing about something so sensitive in a way that makes us think and reflect.

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  99. dude again u are not an expert on human rights and disability just because u have a disabled son and no one knows for sure how exactly people with different levels and forms of intellectual disabilities perceive the world and concepts so it's really arrogant and prescriptive to say that there is no way he understands sexual consent. also an erection can happen randomly, it doesnt mean your son is feeling sexual arousal. for all you know he might not feel that feeling. not every disabled person is a sexual being. some disabilities come with higher instances of asexuality. autism is a classic example. not all disabilities are well studied and understood so you could be projecting neurotypical crap onto people who dont benefit from it.

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  100. if people like this father were taken seriously it would be severely damaging to disability rights. this is why disability activists coined the term "nothing about us without us". sometimes parents and caregivers are the worst perpetrators of ableism. this is widely acknowledged in the disability community by the murders of disabled people by their caregivers. i am a disabled woman with multiple disabilities. i completely condemn infectious sexual assault in the name of disability sexual rights and i don't even think anyone is entitled to sex work no matter what. sex work is commercial sexual exploitation of women. as a disabled person and a woman i care both about women's rights and disability rights and how they intersect.

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    1. incestuous* not infectious stupid spellcheck

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  101. i am against assisted suicide and euthanasia due to the negative effects it has on disabled and elderly people but i would support capital punishment for the OP for sure. do it the muslim way, beheading with a sword. somebody tell his local islamist groups about his degenerate and abhorrent behavior.

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  102. At the end of the day whether you think this guy is wrong or right we are talking about a disabled HUMAN BEING here so all the ignorant comments about the son are uncalled for and if you had a child with cerebral palsy I doubt you would be hitting those low blows ... I'm just saying the last person that had something to say about my child which is also disabled got followed home and got her ass handed to her while her face was kissing the cement ...

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  103. i believe that mothers also have the secret desire to blow their sons and give them handjobs too

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  104. women have a lot of dirty secrets and they feel a lot of shame and guilt

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  105. i bet this guy likes to give mustafa therapeutic blowjobs as well. do you like to therapeutically sit on his dick?

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  106. I can guarantee most people regardless of how disabled they are don't want their own father doing this to them.

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    1. I agree. This is not only sick, it's not necessary, and his Son may not even want it.

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  107. Don't let this distract you from the the fact that in 1966, Al Bundy scored four touchdowns in a single game while playing for the Polk High School Panthers in the 1966 city championship game versus Andrew Johnson High School, including the game-winning touchdown in the final seconds against his old nemesis, Bubba "Spare Tire" Dixon.

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  108. Lmaooo bruh this dude has been beating the meat of his retard son for the last 10 years

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